Find Love Without the Apps:

Join my Conscious Matchmaking pool!

Real people. Real connections.

Curated introductions designed with your values in mind.

If you’ve landed on this page, it’s because you’re serious about finding a relationship that feels aligned, healthy, and long-lasting, and you’re open to a new way of meeting someone.



This is far from a swiping app, and it’s not about endless chatting with people who don’t want the same things as you.

This pool is about connection first - values, lifestyle, and relationship vision. Because those are the things that truly matter if you want love that lasts.



Of course, I also know attraction matters. Chemistry is part of the mix.

But here’s the thing: attraction can grow when the foundations are right, and too many people miss out on amazing potential partners because they only ever judge a single photo.

That’s why I’ve designed this pool differently.



So I’ve got a small-but-mighty matchmaking list that I’d love for you to be a part of.



If I come across someone who fits what you're looking for, I’ll let you know. 


FYI…this isn't a full matchmaking service - it's more like being kept in mind by someone who knows what they're doing. 😉

Quick Summary

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✅ Join the pool (pay a one-time fee of £20) - secure your spot by registering today.

✅ Share your details - complete a detailed form so I can get to know you (photo included).

✅ Get matched - I review the pool personally to connect people with aligned values, goals, and location preferences.

✅ Meet and explore - I’ll make introductions when I see a promising connection.

✅ Prep for relationship success - you'll also get an e-course based on my Dream Partner Formula™ delivered to your inbox to set you up for success in your relationship.

✅ Chat and make connections - you'll have access to the Private Telegram Community Chat where you can talk to other Pool members and engage in uplifting, insightful and fun conversations (this will soon become an optional add-on as a subscription so jump in now while it's included in the fee!)

✅ Connect face-to-face - you'll be able to attend virtual Mixers without a ticket, and connect with members - and non-members - 'face-to-face' - and enjoy real-time conversations

Your love story could start here. 😍

✨ Why I created this:

If you’ve tried dating apps, you’ll know they can be… a bit of a jungle. 😵

I met my partner online, but I still experienced the same challenges...

...the endless swiping, ghosting, and connections that fizzle out.

So I wanted to create something different: a personal matchmaking pool where I connect conscious singles who are genuinely ready for aligned, intentional love.💞 

I’ve been supporting singles for years in dating with confidence, clarity, and joy, and have a Meet-Up group of over 2,000 conscious daters, and rising (they were my inspiration for starting this pool ✨, with some as my founding members 😊 ).

And now, I’m bringing that same energy into matchmaking.

I can’t promise love overnight (no one can! 🤭) but I can promise your details will be personally reviewed, kept safe, and considered whenever I see a possible match.

Here’s exactly what happens once you join:

💘You join the pool.

After payment, you’ll be directed to a private intake form where you’ll share details about yourself, your values, and what you’re looking for.

💘You’ll also be prompted to upload one natural, recent photo.

(Smiling, no heavy filters - something that feels like you.)

💘You’ll receive a confirmation email to say your details have been received and I’ll start matchmaking.

When I see a potential fit, I’ll prepare a short intro snapshot for you and the other person.

💘You’ll each receive the same “intro snapshot.”

This includes:

1 natural photo

Age range & location

Lifestyle highlights/values

1-2 other useful facts

💘You decide privately.

If you’d like to connect, reply YES. If it’s not a fit, reply NO. No explanations needed.


💘If you both say YES → I connect you.

From there, it’s over to you.

🚫 About Saying “No”

This is important: if you choose not to connect with someone, you never need to explain why.

And you’ll never be told why someone else said no.

Instead, you’ll simply hear from me:

“This one wasn’t quite the fit - I’ve got more matches in mind for you.”

That way, there are no awkward rejections. Just smooth, neutral steps forward.

📸 About Photos

We’re not building a swipe-based “hotness competition.”

Everyone submits just one natural, recent photo for their intro snapshot.

Think:
“Would I happily meet this person for a coffee and see if a spark might grow?”

That’s the only bar.

No glam galleries, no scrolling through socials, no pressure. Just a genuine chance to see if something feels promising enough to explore.

🚀Important note:

This isn’t a “guaranteed match” service - I wish I had a secret cupboard full of perfect partners for you, but sadly, it doesn’t work like that.

What it does mean is that you’ll be on my radar, and if I meet someone who feels like a strong fit based on your values, lifestyle, and what you’re looking for, I’ll be in touch to organise an introduction.

If we haven’t found you a potential match within 6 months, you’ll get a complimentary ‘Where Are They Hiding?’ location service  (worth £50) - I’ll help you find real-life places and events to meet the kind of people you actually want to date - based on your lifestyle, interests, and values.

Think of it as me having your back in the dating wild - whether or not Cupid cooperates in the exact time frame. 😜💘

💌 Next Steps

If this feels like the kind of experience you want to be part of, your next step is simple:

➡ Make your payment below to join the pool - it's a one-off payment of £20, no ongoing fees


➡ You’ll then be directed to completing your intake form and uploading a photo.

That’s it - you’ll officially be in, and I’ll take care of the rest. 😁

I can’t wait to introduce you to the right people. 💕

Frequently Asked Questions

What happens when I sign up?

Once you make a payment you will get access to the intake form where you'll share your details, preferences and a photo with me.

Once you submit your intake form, you’ll receive your Dating Pack (worth £60+) and be personally added to the matchmaking system.

I regularly review members and I'll reach out when I find someone in the pool who could be a good match for you. If you both agree to it, then I'll introduce you via email, and leave you to it. If you don't both agree I'll let you know that it's not a fit, and I'll be back with another match when I find them. 🙂

You’ll also get invited to exclusive community events like the Matchmaking Pool Mixer - which is a fun way to connect and practice real-world dating skills (including implementing tips from your dating guides in the Dating Pack).

Can you guarantee me a match?

I wish I could, like a traditional matchmaking agency, but who I match you with depends on who joins the pool. This is more about me keeping you on my radar for someone, which is why the joining fee is so low compared to a traditional matchmaking agency.

Are there people near me?

There are people joining from all over the UK, Ireland and Europe, and people are happy/open to travel or do long-distance, so it's very likely there are people near you.

Do I have to pay ongoing fees?

Nope. You simply pay a one-off fee of £20 to be in the pool. This will go up in the future with the rise in members and more admin time, so now is the best time to jump in price-wise!

How soon will I meet someone?

I'm afraid that's difficult to say. I will be checking the database regularly, and will also be actively promoting to invite people into the pool - as the more people in the pool, the higher opportunities for matches! And for an aligned match, the wait would be worth it. 😍

What if I'm already online dating or going to in-person events?

Good for you that you're putting yourself out there! You can see the pool as another option for meeting an aligned person, and having all of your bases covered. 😀

What if I'm ready to date but not feeling very confident?

You might want to join the Find Your Match Club instead. You still get to be a part of the Matchmaking Pool, and be in the Community, but you will also get weekly guidance and support to help you with your dating life.

This includes tools to help you to date with confidence, such as conversation starters, confidence boosters, and a red flags checklist. You will also receive support with your mindset, and opportunities to ask me questions and get some personalised guidance. Check the Club out here. 😊

How do you actually DO the matching?

I have a database and I know how to use it. Lol. I will be filtering and matching you based on your age and location preferences, but primarily on your desired values and lifestyle compatibility. I may reach out if your values align really well, but one or two preferences might be a little off. It'll give you a chance to evaluate how important those preferences are when you compare them to how aligned your values are.

Can I invite friends to join the pool?

Absolutely! The more people who join, the better everyone’s chances of finding a great match. You can simply share the matchmaking pool link with friends who are single and genuinely looking for a relationship. You’ll be helping to grow the community - and you never know, you might even help someone meet their person! 💕

What happens if I meet someone outside of the pool?

That would be wonderful! The goal is for you to find love, wherever it happens! You can stay in the pool until you let me know if you’d like to pause or close your profile. You’ll still have access to the Dating Pack and any events happening while you’re a member, just in case you’d like to stay connected. 🌟

Is the Telegram Community like a dating app or singles chatroom?

Not at all! 😄
Think of it more like a warm, conscious community space - not a flirty free-for-all.

It’s where members of the Matchmaking Pool can share insights, take part in weekly prompts, and have meaningful conversations with other genuine singles who are also being intentional as they date.

You might connect with someone - and that’s wonderful if you do - but the focus is on real connection, growth, and aligned energy, not endless chatting or chasing matches.

It’s about meeting people differently - no swiping, no pressure, just honest, thoughtful connection. 💫

What if I’m interested in someone in the community - how does that work?

Great question! 🥰

If you feel a spark or a genuine curiosity about someone in the community, just let me know privately (no public declarations, please 😅).

You’ll get a short form to share your interest. I’ll make a note of it and, if that person later mentions you too, I’ll check for alignment - values, goals, key compatibility areas - and let you both know if it looks like a potential match.

This isn’t about chasing vibes - it’s about creating connections that actually make sense. 💕

If both of you are happy to explore further, I’ll make a personal introduction so you can take it from there.

What if I don't get matched - can I get a refund?

Since joining the matchmaking pool gives you instant access to the Dating Pack and inclusion in the community, membership fees are non-refundable.

Each member is personally reviewed, and I spend time checking for compatibility and potential introductions, so even if a match doesn’t happen right away (or at all), time and admin work have already gone into supporting you.

Because matches depend on who joins and how preferences align, they can’t be guaranteed - so please only join if you’re happy with that and excited to be part of a growing community of singles who are all here for the same reason. 💕

Why are you doing this?

Well, since you're asking 😜, I've always been into love and romance since I was a teen, and you're unlikely to see me without a heart-shaped piece of jewellery on me. 😍

When I was 16 I had to create a project as part of my computer studies coursework, and I created a matchmaking agency using a database, as I loved the idea of helping people find love based on their preferences.

So, I've wanted to bring people together like this for decades! 💞

My Conscious Dating Meet-Up group with over 1900 members finally inspired me to get on with it, as I'm sure there are so many matches amongst the members, and I wanted to create an opportunity to bring them together.

Plus, I've been able to help my 1:1 clients find their ideal partners, by focusing on their values and relationship non-negotiables. So you're in great hands! 🤗

Ready to meet someone aligned, without the dating overwhelm, and with an expert eye on your matches? Sign up below!

👋🏾 Hi, I’m Tope,

(pronounced TopAir) - dating mentor, online dating survivor (and thriver), and the creator of the Dream Partner Formula™. 

I’ve spent over 2 decades navigating modern dating after my divorce many moons ago, before I met my lovely partner who I’ve been with for 4 years now.

I actually met my partner online, after testing just about every strategy out there (so you don’t have to). 😀

As a dating coach, mentor and guide I’m here to help you have some quick wins on your dating journey, as well as deeper shifts for long-lasting impact (should you want it).

I have years of experience helping clients to date intentionally, and find the RIGHT partner for them based on their values, lifestyle and non-negotiables - and that’s what I’ll be doing for you with this matchmaking pool. 

Here’s hoping that someone in the pool is a great match for you!💖

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IMPORTANT NOTE: The matchmaking pool is a community-based introduction service. While I personally review and match members when compatibility is found, matches cannot be guaranteed, as it depends on who joins and aligns with your preferences.

Joining gives you immediate access to the Dating Pack and community benefits, so membership fees are non-refundable once payment is made.

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